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Mind Chatter: Quiet Your Mind and Live Life

by admin on February 23, 2012

“Why do you stay in prison when the door is so wide open? Move outside the tangle of fear-thinking. Live in silence.” Rumi

Mind chatter happens throughout the day, whether you are working, shopping driving or resting. Sometimes you listen, watching one thought after anther pass though you mind. Other times, thoughts get stuck, repeating over and over in your head. When stress is in overdrive, mind chatter can rev up a few notches. You begin to over think and analyzing everything and get distracted with what is happening right now, called your life.

Stress and problems can cause thinking to become distorted. When you begin to worry and feel regret over the past, your mind is focusing on what you could have done differently. Worrying about the future starts all sorts of mind acrobats about how every little scenario will play out. Being present in life means your mind remains connected to what is happening right in front of you.  When you get disconnected with the here and now, it’s as if you look at what is missing or wrong in your life.

As long as each and every part of your life remains under control, then everything will be fine. Or so you might believe.

Controlling how events happen and planning the exact results may not be a conscious action. It can be, however, the main way folks cope with everyday stress. Grasping onto thoughts and played out scenes in your mind can perpetuate chronic stress. The fact is this detailed movie in your mind may be based on fiction rather than fact. It’s not so much that minds do chatter as much as we believe stories that just aren’t true. This is how high stress can get blown out of proportion. It’s as if the compulsion is so strong to live in the past in future that you might just miss out on real life.

Real life is what is happening around you this very second. It’s cooking dinner and cutting colorful vegetables for a nourishing meal. It’s helping your child do her homework.  Maybe it’s watching a movie with friends, working on fixing up an antique car or just having a conversation with someone you love. You miss out on your life every time your mind wants to replay the past or project into the future.

What if for one moment you chose to step away from the toxic mind chatter? And you decided to carefully place the stories in a box? You just might see the rich colors of life. The beauty of those around you and the connections with people that is priceless. Take a breath and draw life through every cell of your body. Live your life with gratitude with what you have, not what is missing. Quiet your mind and live life to the fullest.

For over 25 years in the health care profession, Lisa Birnesser has studied stress relief techniques and have helped hundreds of people reduce stress in their lives. Lisa specializes in stress management coaching by helping people do what matters most every day.

{ 12 comments… read them below or add one }

Angie M Jordan April 24, 2012 at 10:07 am

I love it!  Take the time to appreciate the right now, the beauty in the moment.  The beauty in life is in the moment but so many people get caught up in everything else.  Great reminder! 


Martha Giffen April 24, 2012 at 10:21 am

So often we live our lives focused anywhere but in the present moment.  Sad really. But a grateful attitude can change everything.  You can feel your spirits lift and your mind fill with positive thoughts.  Thanks for an inspiring post!


Mandy Edwards April 24, 2012 at 1:14 pm

I have a lot of mind chatter going on and I do notice that it picks up the more stressed I am, which in turn stresses me out.  Thank you for posting this!  I will remember this when it kick up again!


Sharon O'Day April 24, 2012 at 2:28 pm

Lisa, I've discovered that there's also "money chatter" in people's heads … as long as your expenses are higher than your income.  The moment they're equal, you're not worried about each passing day because you'll have the money you need to pay the upcoming bills.  Amazing how stress-reducing that one accomplishment can be.  Great article!


Elaine Shannon April 24, 2012 at 2:30 pm

Great tips and the picture looks so inviting, I will be enjoying some white sand and mindless nothingness in 3 more sleeps. 


Marie Leslie April 24, 2012 at 2:42 pm

As a recovering perfectionist and control freak, this is so on the mark.  Letting go is a constant process for me, but as I move forward I find my life to be so much more peaceful and productive.


Anita April 24, 2012 at 4:30 pm

Great post Lisa, Not only do I have to work on the Mind chatter…I love to talk so I am really needing to get it together!


Nisha April 24, 2012 at 6:15 pm

Mindfulness isn't easy when you're trying to do a million different things in your day. But you make a good point. You miss out on the simple joys if you're just going from one thing to the next and constantly distracted. Great post!


Amy April 24, 2012 at 6:56 pm

I plan to reread this again when my mind is racing and I'm trying to go to sleep. I agree – it can be so hard to turn off the chatter, but letting it take over doesn't help at all. You make some good points. Part of living gratefully is living in the present.


elizabeth April 24, 2012 at 7:47 pm

I really like the thought os putting the stories in a box.. great visual! Ahh refreshing to come see a story like this!


Sally K Witt April 24, 2012 at 11:53 pm

Stress is not only a killer in the long run, but keeps you in bondage day to day.  Every step to relieve stress is a wonderful gift.


Helena April 25, 2012 at 11:26 pm

I've always had a hard time shutting my mind down. I love your idea of putting the stories in a box … I think mine will need a tight lid and a very big lock. :) Thanks for another great article Lisa!


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